The underrated basic need.
Sexuality starts in the womb and runs through our whole life, because it is one of the basic needs that we all share. However, it is also one of the needs most affected by emotions such as shame, fear, joy, …. It influences our character and the way we interact with other people.
At a young age, we are not only pushed into drawers by the education but also by the media and the marketing world. We learn what is appropriate in our social environment and what is not. Everybody interprets sexuality differently. We experience violence and abuse of power through sexuality, forming our partnership and communication.
People who feel in the wrong body or are attracted to same-sex people are often marginalized and / or unacceptable. What exactly this means or what exactly gender adjustment is is rarely communicated.
Mostly, the youth is only taught in a very hygienic way what sex is and how children come to the world. How to communicate to each other before it comes to sex, how to clarify boundaries, how to get to know each other and much more is not taught.
In adult life, we are repeatedly confronted with sexuality, be it in a positive or a negative sense. Whether it’s through the media that teaches us how to dress, to the work colleagues who each have their own view of sexuality. Or have not you ever talked about and judged someone else’s sexuality?
In partnerships, it often happens after a long period of time that sexuality is receding more and more into the background. Here one often notices that in the communication and the way sexuality is lived misunderstandings arise. Many women withdraw from sexuality and adopt beliefs such as “I do not need it” and “Sex is not that important”. Often, however, they do not know their true potential at all or do not know how to convey their partner what they really need and want. For their part, men feel unloved and rejected when they are deprived of sexual contact. They often try to find ways to reconnect with their loved ones.
Once the men reach the point where they give up and accept that no sexual act will take place, change often happens. Mostly in later years, after the children have grown up, some women wake up from their mother role and become sexually active again and realize that nothing more happens. The man is then mostly confused and again arise misunderstandings.
Despite the fact that same-sex love is already in many media and is largely accepted, the moment of the outing of young people as well as adults is difficult. This is true for any kind of sexual identity and sexual preference.
One topic that is still a big taboo is the Tansidentity. She is rarely spoken of and very few people know what this actually means. Those affected are often faced with a long road and many decisions that will change their lives. Most are excluded and later have to struggle with shame again and again. Since many sex adjustments are the last step, come with her many feelings of relief but also like frustration. Because many experience problems in the sexuality after the adjustment, whether it reduces the orgasm ability, or the way how to deal with the topic, if an operation did not go as planned.
Here the work in the field of Sexological Bodywork is helpful to restore the contact with your own body and to learn how to enjoy the newly gained sexuality.
There are many more possibilities of sexuality. It is important to realize how well you feel. How do you perceive your body? How do you experience sexuality? What else do you want to know about sexuality?
My contribution to sexuality?
I accompany people of all ages and sex. Because sexuality is something wonderful and it starts with the love for oneself. Gladly you can explain me your topic and we look together as I can accompany you.